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Right Focus creates Right Future

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How you think is how you feel and so, your body languages show what is in your mind.

Remember that how you do anything is how you do everything.

If you want a great future, then you need to start focusing on the right things now. What you have done in the past has created the current you and if you want to change for the better, then start thinking and doing the right things from today.

I was at a food centre some years ago having dinner when I noticed a fly kept flying around me and my dinner. It was irritating as I saw it stopped on the leftover food and dishes left by the last patron. The fly kept coming closer and closer as my eyes kept following the trial it was flying. Thinking of how I can kill that irritating flying creature.

Then I suddenly started to use the pair of chopsticks in my hand to wave around so as to warn the fly to go away but it kept coming back. It was disturbing and I started waving my hands more aggressively with the hope that I would hit the fly so that it will not be back again.

Suddenly, I hit on something and I heard a loud crash. I looked down and found that I had swept my dinner on the ground together with some other plates and bowls that were on the table. I was embarrassed as the crowd in the food centre looked at me thinking that I may be crazy.

Lesson learnt in a worst moment. If I focused on my dinner and finished it faster instead of focusing on the distraction from the fly, I would have filled my stomach and walked off happier. But sad to say that I had focus on the wrong thing.

I was so focused on the fly that I forgotten about my food which was just in front of me and I had forgotten that the people at the food centre was looking at everything I did. I was distracted, embarrassed, hungry and feeling shameful as I walked away.

A little fly can put a giant like me in shame by distracting my attention and mess up my life. It’s a lesson needed some attention to learn and change for the better.

Nowadays, I usually put my mind in a clear state. By first to concentrate and understand, then give some thoughts before I speak or act. My livelihood, efforts and mindfulness need to put into consideration because anything I do will determine how I do everything.

If you want a great future, focus on the things you need to do on your “To Do List” and not be distracted with the things that suddenly popped up. Do get agitated with what doesn’t concern you. Focus and concentrate on what will change your life for the better.

Some of us may have lots of unsolved problem, may it be family, career, money, or etc. If you focus on the problem, it will only gets BIGGER and it will also demoralise you to move forward. Hence, you are unable to move forward with your dreams to achieve a better life.

Don’t listen and get distracted by the fly that fly around you and giving you all the negative remarks.

Follow your heart and think careful with the right concentration to understand and take the right actions to achieve your dreams. Everyone is given a purpose to come to earth. We are here to serve and make it a better place for you and me to live in. Therefore, the right focus and action will give the right results we are looking for and hence, create a great future.

The Mirror of Life.

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We have seen and heard many speakers and sometimes we try to model them. But are you learning the right skills from the right masters.

There are many great speakers in the world and as we listen to their speeches, we are impressed with the way they put their words across. We are persuaded, inspired and aspire to be like them.

Since the birth of radio many decades ago, we have been listening and learning thru hearing. Until today, some people still learning thru listening to the MP3, MP4, radio, CDs and etc. Hence, we build in our mind that language is the most important in any presentation. We need to perfect our language before we can use it. But is there perfection in this world?

The late Dr. Albert Mehrabian did a study to find out the differences and effectiveness of Verbal, Vocal and Visual in presentation and found out that the Visual (Body Language) take up 55% while Vocal 38% and Verbal has only 7%. It was a great surprise to everyone when announced to the public. But time after time, when a simple test has been done, the audience get to understand instantly how true the findings are.

But some people still thinks that language is the most important in presentation and because they focus so much on the language usage, they neglected the importance of vocal variety and body languages.

Therefore, when we attend any seminar, we can easily judge the speaker with their performance on stage, the kind of skills they possesses and how effective can they be. It mirror their life.

I always say that how you do anything is how you do everything. How you do anything on stage is how you do everything in your life.

If the speaker focus on the language so much, they are only focusing on the smallest part in the whole presentation. It is just like when a mosquito bite you and you kept scratching the small little part of your body that was bitten. There are plenty of things you can do and with other part of the body but you insisted on scratching the part that was bitten. Aren’t you wasting time and efforts on things that are minor in life and forgotten that there are plenty of things should have been done if you would have not concentrate on the wrong part at the wrong time?

The usage of vocal variety is not just about the ability to pronounce the words properly but it is all about creating excitement, feeling and authority at any moment of time during presentation. It is how you make the audience feel when you get that message across to them and winning their heart.

Many speakers aren’t able to trigger the emotion of the audience because they focus too much on the right usage of the language that they forgotten even to use the right word at the right time with the right vocal variety and the right body language during presentation.

If you focus only the small things, these small things will be the biggest thing in your life. If you focus of the bigger things, the bigger things will create the world in your life. Because I focus on the bigger things in life and they creates the world for me and I am invited to many parts of the world to share my experiences and knowledge. If one only focus on the smaller things, than they will only be invited among the smaller circle of certain group.

The mirror of life is powerful as it reflects you to life, your efforts to what you will achieve in life and your understand to what others can see you as a master in life.

So, if you are looking forward to become a greater speaker and a greater leader, learn from the right speakers and the right leaders. Change your image and adopt the right understanding and you will change your life. The reflection of your life will be changed so long as you change yourself now.